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At The Charmm'd Foundation, we enjoy reading books and having thought provoking discussions throughout the year. This is a great way for us to
learn from the author, hear diverse view points and continue to build relationships. These books are relevant to our work; from community building
and leadership to ethical thinking and skill development. Please feel free to browse our bookshelf and use the questions provided for your next
book club.
*Amazon sends a rebate to The Charmm'd Foundation for all books & audio books purchased through this site!
Currently Reading:
Put the Moose on the Table: Lessons in Leadership from a Ceo's Journey Through Business and Life
By: Randall Tobias
– How did Randall Tobias' first meeting as CEO of Eli Lilly display effective use of SEL skills?
– How can we effectively use Randall’s “Get the Moose on the Table” concept to effectively hold “difficult conversations”? What other situations could be
appropriate for “Get the Moose on the Table”?
– Randall discusses effective communication as a key part of his success as a CEO. He discusses that how communication is heard is perhaps more
important than what is said. How can we utilize his “Test Drive the Words” concept in our lives to become more effective communicators? Do you think this is an
effective tool?
– Randall lists his key leadership attributes on pages 5 & 6 of the summary. Which of these attributes do you feel would be most critical for the development of
good community leaders specifically tied to the initiatives of the Charmm’d Foundation? Would the development of some of these attributes further the goals of
Charmm’d?
– What are your overall feelings on the concepts laid out by Randall Tobias? Did the summary and discussion included here make you want to read the full
book? What can each of us take away from his comments to help improve ourselves?
The Archives:
The EQ Edge
By: Steven Stein, Ph.D
- Of the fifteen EQ competencies listed in the book, which ones do you consider to be the cornerstone to emotional intelligence development? Meaning, without these
competencies it is difficult to develop the others.
- Which competencies naturally link together? How do they link together?
- What are your strongest EQ competencies?
- Which one competency would you like to further develop? What 1st step will you take to develop that competency?
- What do you think of the ABCDE model? In what future situation will you apply it?
- Appendix 2 defines the five most important EQ factors for work success by occupation group. What trends stand out to you? Any surprises?
- What meaning does the title have for you - The EQ Edge?
It’s Just an Event: It’s Your Choice How You Want To Feel
By: Ray Mathis
- Anger plays a role in many things that go wrong in peoples’ lives, in particular
how they conduct themselves in relationships.
- Does what other people say and do make us mad, or do we make ourselves
mad?
- How does anger really come about?
- How can we reduce the frequency, intensity, and duration of any anger we
generate?
- How can one’s feelings about oneself impact relationships?
- When you listen to the way you talk about any emotion you experience,
either to yourself or out loud, do you currently have an external or internal
locus of control?
- Why is change so difficult for most people?
- What do we need to remember and what do we need to do to change
the way we think, feel, say, and do things?
- Is it understandable for people to revert to old ways of thinking, feeling,
saying, and doing things, even years later?
- How can you develop Unconditional Self-Acceptance and Unconditional Other
Acceptance?
- What is one thing about your life you have or will consider changing or doing differently
now that you have read this book?
Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience
By: Mihaly Csikszentmihaly
What was your initial impression of the book when you first saw the cover and what thoughts crossed your mind?
After reading the book, were your initial impressions and thoughts confirmed or did they change, and if so, how?
What section of the book most resonated with you?
Have you ever had a “flow experience”? What was it like? What were you feeling? Was the experience sustainable?
What factors would you say are important to be in the “flow”?
Did the book change your view that you may have previously held? If so, how, and in what ways?
What is one thing about your life you have or will consider changing or doing differently now that you have read this book?
How long were you in the “flow experience”?
Were there any sections of the book that you didn't agree with? Why?
What are your thoughts around the flow diagram on page 74? Do you agree with its premise?
Coaching for Emotional Intelligence: The Secret to Developing the Star Potential in Your Employees
By: Bob Wall
What were your impressions of “coaching” before you read the book? What are they now?
How do you think “coaching” is different from “managing/supervising?”
Did the book cause you to think about yourself in different ways? Did it cause you to reflect on your actions/behaviors at work?
Did you consider or attempt to change anything about your behaviors/actions at work due to reading the book and thinking more intentionally about “coaching?”
Share with the group one change you will consider making at work and what you hope to gain from this change.
Community: The Structure of Belonging
By: Peter Block
When individuals are more committed to being right than creating an alternative future, what can we do to make a difference?
What has someone in this group (or your department) done for you lately that has touched you or moved you or been of value to you?
What gift do you have to bring to this group, your department, your community, etc.?
With the presidential election fast approaching, have you changed your view on being a “citizen of the United States” based on what you have read. Give an example of
how you have changed
Decent People, Decent Company: How to Lead With Character at Work and in Life
By: Robert L. Turknett
What are the most important messages you found?
What examples shared in the book resonated best for you?
What Core Value(s) did you see in the book?
What Social, Emotional Learning skill learned in the book would I like to develop in myself?
How will I/could I apply this at my place of employment?
Emotional Intelligence
By: Daniel Goldman
A Time magazine cover story about emotional intelligence argued that, "The Emotional Intelligence proposes that empathy and other emotional skills can be taught -- and
that schools should teach students how to given situation." Do you believe it's appropriate -- or possible -- for schools to teach emotional skills to students? If parents don't
teach these skills, and schools shouldn't, who should?
Happier: Learn the Secrets to Daily Joy and Lasting Fulfillment
By: Tal Ben-Shahar
Do you accept negative emotions as natural? Do you see your work as a job, a career, or a calling?
How Full Is Your Bucket? Positive Strategies for Work and Life
By: Tom Rath and Don Clifton
How did you feel after your last interaction with another person? Did you fill their "bucket" by making you feel more positive?
Or did that person "dip from your bucket," leaving you more negative than before?
In Pursuit of the Common Good: Twenty-Five Years of Improving the World, One Bottle of Salad Dressing at a Time
By: Paul Newman
Why did this non-profit succeed?
What do you like about the culture of this organization?
What character traits do you admire about Paul Newman and his partner, A.E. Hotchner?
Is there anything that they have done that we can learn from and implement?
Social Intelligence: The New Science of Human Relationships
By: Daniel Goldman
What did I learn about myself? What SEL skill do I need to develop in myself?
What was the most important message? How will I apply this at my place of employment?
learn from the author, hear diverse view points and continue to build relationships. These books are relevant to our work; from community building
and leadership to ethical thinking and skill development. Please feel free to browse our bookshelf and use the questions provided for your next
book club.
*Amazon sends a rebate to The Charmm'd Foundation for all books & audio books purchased through this site!
Currently Reading:
Put the Moose on the Table: Lessons in Leadership from a Ceo's Journey Through Business and Life
By: Randall Tobias
– How did Randall Tobias' first meeting as CEO of Eli Lilly display effective use of SEL skills?
– How can we effectively use Randall’s “Get the Moose on the Table” concept to effectively hold “difficult conversations”? What other situations could be
appropriate for “Get the Moose on the Table”?
– Randall discusses effective communication as a key part of his success as a CEO. He discusses that how communication is heard is perhaps more
important than what is said. How can we utilize his “Test Drive the Words” concept in our lives to become more effective communicators? Do you think this is an
effective tool?
– Randall lists his key leadership attributes on pages 5 & 6 of the summary. Which of these attributes do you feel would be most critical for the development of
good community leaders specifically tied to the initiatives of the Charmm’d Foundation? Would the development of some of these attributes further the goals of
Charmm’d?
– What are your overall feelings on the concepts laid out by Randall Tobias? Did the summary and discussion included here make you want to read the full
book? What can each of us take away from his comments to help improve ourselves?
The Archives:
The EQ Edge
By: Steven Stein, Ph.D
- Of the fifteen EQ competencies listed in the book, which ones do you consider to be the cornerstone to emotional intelligence development? Meaning, without these
competencies it is difficult to develop the others.
- Which competencies naturally link together? How do they link together?
- What are your strongest EQ competencies?
- Which one competency would you like to further develop? What 1st step will you take to develop that competency?
- What do you think of the ABCDE model? In what future situation will you apply it?
- Appendix 2 defines the five most important EQ factors for work success by occupation group. What trends stand out to you? Any surprises?
- What meaning does the title have for you - The EQ Edge?
It’s Just an Event: It’s Your Choice How You Want To Feel
By: Ray Mathis
- Anger plays a role in many things that go wrong in peoples’ lives, in particular
how they conduct themselves in relationships.
- Does what other people say and do make us mad, or do we make ourselves
mad?
- How does anger really come about?
- How can we reduce the frequency, intensity, and duration of any anger we
generate?
- How can one’s feelings about oneself impact relationships?
- When you listen to the way you talk about any emotion you experience,
either to yourself or out loud, do you currently have an external or internal
locus of control?
- Why is change so difficult for most people?
- What do we need to remember and what do we need to do to change
the way we think, feel, say, and do things?
- Is it understandable for people to revert to old ways of thinking, feeling,
saying, and doing things, even years later?
- How can you develop Unconditional Self-Acceptance and Unconditional Other
Acceptance?
- What is one thing about your life you have or will consider changing or doing differently
now that you have read this book?
Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience
By: Mihaly Csikszentmihaly
What was your initial impression of the book when you first saw the cover and what thoughts crossed your mind?
After reading the book, were your initial impressions and thoughts confirmed or did they change, and if so, how?
What section of the book most resonated with you?
Have you ever had a “flow experience”? What was it like? What were you feeling? Was the experience sustainable?
What factors would you say are important to be in the “flow”?
Did the book change your view that you may have previously held? If so, how, and in what ways?
What is one thing about your life you have or will consider changing or doing differently now that you have read this book?
How long were you in the “flow experience”?
Were there any sections of the book that you didn't agree with? Why?
What are your thoughts around the flow diagram on page 74? Do you agree with its premise?
Coaching for Emotional Intelligence: The Secret to Developing the Star Potential in Your Employees
By: Bob Wall
What were your impressions of “coaching” before you read the book? What are they now?
How do you think “coaching” is different from “managing/supervising?”
Did the book cause you to think about yourself in different ways? Did it cause you to reflect on your actions/behaviors at work?
Did you consider or attempt to change anything about your behaviors/actions at work due to reading the book and thinking more intentionally about “coaching?”
Share with the group one change you will consider making at work and what you hope to gain from this change.
Community: The Structure of Belonging
By: Peter Block
When individuals are more committed to being right than creating an alternative future, what can we do to make a difference?
What has someone in this group (or your department) done for you lately that has touched you or moved you or been of value to you?
What gift do you have to bring to this group, your department, your community, etc.?
With the presidential election fast approaching, have you changed your view on being a “citizen of the United States” based on what you have read. Give an example of
how you have changed
Decent People, Decent Company: How to Lead With Character at Work and in Life
By: Robert L. Turknett
What are the most important messages you found?
What examples shared in the book resonated best for you?
What Core Value(s) did you see in the book?
What Social, Emotional Learning skill learned in the book would I like to develop in myself?
How will I/could I apply this at my place of employment?
Emotional Intelligence
By: Daniel Goldman
A Time magazine cover story about emotional intelligence argued that, "The Emotional Intelligence proposes that empathy and other emotional skills can be taught -- and
that schools should teach students how to given situation." Do you believe it's appropriate -- or possible -- for schools to teach emotional skills to students? If parents don't
teach these skills, and schools shouldn't, who should?
Happier: Learn the Secrets to Daily Joy and Lasting Fulfillment
By: Tal Ben-Shahar
Do you accept negative emotions as natural? Do you see your work as a job, a career, or a calling?
How Full Is Your Bucket? Positive Strategies for Work and Life
By: Tom Rath and Don Clifton
How did you feel after your last interaction with another person? Did you fill their "bucket" by making you feel more positive?
Or did that person "dip from your bucket," leaving you more negative than before?
In Pursuit of the Common Good: Twenty-Five Years of Improving the World, One Bottle of Salad Dressing at a Time
By: Paul Newman
Why did this non-profit succeed?
What do you like about the culture of this organization?
What character traits do you admire about Paul Newman and his partner, A.E. Hotchner?
Is there anything that they have done that we can learn from and implement?
Social Intelligence: The New Science of Human Relationships
By: Daniel Goldman
What did I learn about myself? What SEL skill do I need to develop in myself?
What was the most important message? How will I apply this at my place of employment?
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| Ray Mathis at a recent Charmm'd Foundation Book Club review of his book It's Just and Event: It's Your Choice How You Want to Feel. |